It’s finally come time to admit it: I suffer from festive blues.
By no means am I saying that I’m a Scrooge shouting Bah Humbug at carol singers or at children skipping on their merry way to a nativity play.
However around Christmas I do become more depressed and far more snappy with people. No matter how much I want to be on my own sometimes, I believe we should be more open with how we are feeling during this time of year because it’s a good reminder that we aren’t alone and these feelings are only temporary.
What are the festive blues:
The holiday season can trigger depression or depression-like symptoms for a number of reasons:
- economic circumstances,
- life situation (break up, death of a loved one),
- family dysfunction,
- less sunlight,
- Unrealistic expectations (comparing self to others)
- Alcohol intake
- change in diet and routine etc.
I think it’s key to remember that a lot more people are affected during the festive season than we realise. None of us are alone in these feelings but we all have our individual ways of coping.
- Feelings of loneliness
- Lashing out
- Sense of loss
- Feelings of being left out
The cause of my festive blues:
This is going to make me sound like a total millennial but the major cause for my holiday blues is:
- having very high expectations for the picture-perfect festive season and comparing my Christmas to previous years and to others.
When reality inevitably doesn’t meet my expectations, I inevitably don’t feel good. Nothing will ever be good enough.
How to combat festive blues:
- Try and stay in the present- turn off your phone and stop comparing
- Have some alone time- don’t isolate yourself but remember to look after yourself especially if you are burning the candle at both ends
- Don’t compare your insides to another person’s outsides
- Set an end of year goal
- Start a gratitude journal
- Give back
- Plan a getaway
- Speak to someone
- Make sure you’re getting enough sleep
- Set reasonable expectations for the holiday season
- Delete instagram temporarily
Have you experienced Festive Blues? How did you combat it?